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Weaning and Heartache

12 Sep

Long before my son had a relationship with me, he had a relationship with a part of me that he still is obsessed with and will seemingly never want to breakup with; my boobs. Before he could recognize me with his eyes, before he could ask for them by name, they were his first love, his first familiar place, his first connection point with life as an “outside baby”. His everything.

It’s not rare that in any public place, strangers can hear him say “Booh, booh?” or “Dis? Dis?” while simultaneously watching as he shoves a hand down (or up) my shirt in the hunt for his true best friends. He doesn’t like a blanky, or lovey, or anything else… just mama and her “nursies”.

This is going to make weaning him hard.

The other night, I was researching weaning and learned about this first relationship, in a more detailed way. I learned that this will be his first true loss… His first “breakup” and that the crying involved in the weaning process isn’t so much that he’ll be pissed off that I won’t be offering him to nurse anymore, it’s that he’ll be literally mourning the loss of this relationship; the nursing relationship, and all the type of intimate bonding that has/goes with it.

That broke my heart.

My boy is already a sensitive soul. He’s in tune with his mama and doesn’t much care for independence from me (yet). Am I really ready to throw that dependence for comfort away, in the name of weaning???

What are the benefits? What are the side effects? Someone please share their weaning stories with me. I need encouragement and to know that I can do this and he won’t be scarred as a result. I mean, I know one day he’ll likely vomit if he finds this post, but for now, nursing is both of our down time, bonding time and way to be attuned to each other. After a long day at work and daycare, nursing is where we share intimate reconnection time together, holding each other and staring at each other. I take my time with him seriously, so it’s not a “sit and pay attention to something else, while taking advantage of his quietness” time, but true bonding time.

He’s 18 months old, so I know that he’s not getting his food from my body anymore, and often times, there’s no way he’s actually getting any milk, but he won’t stop anyway. Even if it’s a drop, it seems to be enough for him, and if it’s less than a drop, he’s angry about it, sad, and will beg and beg, until I can produce just one more drop to make him happy again.

Unlike most of our friend’s babies, he only recently started sleeping through the night (most nights anyway), and still wakes up incredibly early (3:00-5:00AM) just to nurse and snuggle. I’m not sure if his sleep patterns are a result of really, truly, hating being alone in his crib, or if it is because we spend so much time apart during the day, that he needs to connect as often as possible at night? Like I said, he’s a sensitive child. Not a bruiser, or a bully. He wants to be near me, even if it’s just to fake nurse… and I don’t mind.

So, if I don’t mind… why wean? Is it a “must do” before baby #2, or is it a “if you want to” thing? It is something he will decide on his own, or are there kids who don’t decide that (i.e. the annoying little prince from GOT???)?

Please share stories! I’d love to know your thoughts on the issue.

Introducing: Nerium!

25 May

A while back, my friend Veronica approached me about this product she was working with called Nerium. She was seeing dramatic changes in people’s skin tone, texture and clarity and she wanted me to check it out too. I did and I loved it! A year later, she’s got me hooked.

As an addition to my makeup work, I’ve recently decided to start selling Nerium myself. It’s a natural, plant-based product, free of parabens, gluten and other allergens like soy, and it’s literally changing people’s lives. That may sound dramatic, but it’s really not. People look in the mirror and feel what they see. People with acne scars are being freed of their insecurities. People with crows feet have seen them disappear and feel “like their old selves again”. Women with sagging neck skin or cleavage skin are watching those lines disappear and are daring to wear tank tops or plunging necklines again. People with tired skin are looking brighter, more vibrant. It’s literally lifting people’s spirits by giving them a fresh new glow and a more youthful appearance.

Originally, the nerium oleander plant was being used in research for skin cancer. While it wasn’t healing the cancer, it WAS making people’s skin look healthier, so the testing was shifted from medical to cosmetic.

During clinical trials, most anti-aging skin creams have a lift in wrinkle depth of approximately 5%. NeriumAD, however results in 30-60% lift in wrinkle depth! The results were so “off the charts” for skin care products, that they actually redid the testing several times to make sure it wasn’t a fluke.

The best part of it, is that there’s a 30 day money back guarantee. If you decide to try it, all you have to do is purchase it, use it and if you don’t like it for any reason, send it back for a full refund.

For the last few weeks, I’ve been letting people use my bottles of product to try it out, so I could develop my own gallery of before & after pictures from faces I am used to looking at, and so that I can control the photos myself. I’ve done NOTHING to any of this photos. No enhancements, no photoshop, no anything!!! These are my friends pictures, taken on my iPhone.

Here are some of their real results.

My mom (!!!!!!):

My friend Meredith:

Meredith’s mom, Janey:

My sister-in-law, Hillary:

As you can see, this stuff is kicking booty and taking names. It’s amazing. If you have any questions or are interested in testing it out yourself, let me know.

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“Domino” by BetaWolf (WATCH)

12 Oct

This summer, Beta Wolf went on the road with Daughtry. They spent about 5 weeks making music, friends and memories. While I was home struggling through our 1st trimester “woes” this is what my Grant was doing… and I couldn’t be more proud of him!

Adventures in Breakfast

4 Jun

I’ve got a new obsession. It’s called “Whole Living” and it’s a lifestyle magazine that comes in both print and an interactive iPad version. Of course, I have both the print and the iPad version, so like I said, I’m obsessed. What I love about the magazine is that it’s just hippie enough to feature the organic, hormone-free, all-natural type of cooking and products I love, but not so hippie that the articles make me feel goofy when reading them. It’s like the perfect balance of healthy eating, meets gourmet, meets really fun things to make in the kitchen, meets organic face/body products.

That said, I’ve decided to challenge my culinary adventures by broadening my horizons into the recipes featured in Whole Living, while making some of my own adjustments to suit my own foodie interests, likes and creative prowess.

This is what I made for breakfast this past Saturday. I got a couple “oohs” and “ahs” from Grant and our roommate, but I didn’t think they were sincere until I took my first bite.

RECIPE – Baked Eggs in Whole Roasted Tomatoes, by Whole Living.

I followed the recipe for the most part, but made a few additions to make it “me”.

  1. Add Polenta
    • I buy my Polenta from Trader Joe’s.
    • Cut into cubes and add to Step 1 from the above Recipe.
    • Baking the Polenta with the Tomatoes gives it a nice crisp, toasted-ish flavor/texture
  2. Add Truffle Salt
    • When salting the eggs with coarse sea salt, add a little Truffle Salt to give it an even more dynamic flavor
  3. Add Goat Cheese
    • Towards the end of the cooking process, add a little Goat Cheese to the top of each tomato
    • I also think this would be great with freshly shaved Parmesan, or Gorgonzola
  4. Crisp the Top
    • If you’re not getting the crisp you want, add change the temperature from 400* to Broil and let the dish sit until it gets a very quick and nice crisp to the top
  5. Don’t be afraid to let the eggs spill over onto the Polenta
  6. I served this with an organic multi-grain toast from Wholefoods, but I think this would also be great with a side of bacon. 🙂
Here’s the work in progress: 
Here’s my final product:
If you try this recipe, I’d love to see your pictures! Also, let me know if there are any other ways you’ve found to broaden the horizons of this delish dish. 🙂
Enjoy!

Wedding Video Highlights!!!

7 Jan

Grant + Stephanie :: Wedding Highlights from Max And Molly Films on Vimeo.

Here is our wedding video highlights! Thank you Max & Molly for capturing so many little moments that I wouldn’t have remembered, had you not been there to keep them for us.

Enjoy!

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